Going Technical

For the first time ever, I have given the NUR 131 class an online quiz instead of taking time during the class to give a paper and pencil version.  There are still a few people in our department who don't like the idea of doing these online.  In fact, there are people who have problems with technology in general.

While technology is here to stay, many in our profession have a difficult time embracing its benefits, choosing to dwell on snippets of negativity they find disturbing (like the suicide of a student who was cyberbullied). Students were bullied long before social networking sites were invented.  Blaming it on Facebook or Twitter and discouraging their use in the classroom keeps us from using tools available to enhance our connection to our students and keep them engaged.  Students don't check their Email or answer their phones anymore.  However, text them and you get an immediate response. Post a comment or a message on their Facebook page and you will hear from them within 24 hours.  There are now seminars about using social networking in the classroom but closed minds won't consider the possibilities.  They argue that a quiz or exam online will lack security and lead to cheating.  In our field, that is a very serious consideration.  But are paper and pencil quizzes and exams really more secure?

Nursing exams are very secure documents.  In fact, if a candidate for NCLEX is caught discussing specifics of the licensing exam, it is grounds for denying a license.  We try to maintain that same security with our formal exams, though we know students talk. However, quizzes, which are usually given during class time, have never been as secure as our regular exams.  I have had students absent for half a quiz but still get 100%.  I believe that the online format may be even more secure than giving the quiz in an overcrowded classroom where students are right on top of each other making it very easy to cheat.

I believe the format for this first online quiz made it difficult to cheat, though students who are so inclined will find a way.  All questions were randomized, as were all the options.  The students had only 15 minutes to complete the exercise--definitely not enough time to look up answers, and were not able to go back to the quiz if they didn't complete the 10 questions.  A bigger question for me than how we are giving quizzes is why are we giving quizzes?

Several of us have discussed the rationale of the quizzes we give in our classes.  Apparently the first quizzes were given because the students were not doing well in the courses.  The quizzes were a way to help their grades.  WHAT??  We use the quizzes to inflate their grades?  Say it isn't so!

Nursing is unlike many other subjects in that the application of our content to a real patient situation can mean the difference between life and death.  Inflating the grades and giving students false confidence in their ability has the potential to affect their NCLEX preparation and success.  However, the bigger picture is that "helping" someone pass by inflating a grade might mean harm for a patient because of a future nurse's limited knowledge.  As I've said before, "There is no extra credit in nursing!"

Technology is not the enemy.   We have to tap into technological advances to reach students who are plugged in to the electronic world.  It will require a leap of faith, but our students and our patients deserve nothing less.

Empathic Connection

What is the difference between sympathy and empathy?  I have to teach this difference to our nursing students.  For some students, this is difficult. Sympathy can be very non-therapeutic.  For example, "I'm sorry" can be translated to mean "Thank God this didn't happen to me!"  Empathatic behavior, on the other hand, uses the "I-feel-your-pain" message, that is very effective when used sincerely.

Our empathy is what makes us human--what connects us to others.  Empathetic nurses cry with their patients, laugh with their patients, and grieve with their patients. Demonstrating empathy can cause the nurse to run the gamut of emotions--from the happiest to the saddest--and really requires the nurse to be aware of his or her beliefs, feelings, and ability to communicate effectively.  The roller coaster of emotions can go from high to low in a matter of minutes. 

I have sat with dying patients and laughed with them as they told me stories of their lives.  I have heard horrific stories of war--like the man who at 17 years old was on the beach at Normandy.  I have also served as a cheerleader as they raced toward the end of their lives and passed into the next, only to turn to face their family members as they realize their loved one was no longer with them.  I've laughed, cried, and laughed again--all in a matter of minutes.  Was I sorry that they had lost their loved one?  Absolutely!  But I did more than just say "I'm sorry."  I tuned in to their feelings and felt their loss.

We used to make my youngest daughter remove her iPod and interact with us on trips in the car.  Are young people so "plugged in" that they're not connecting with the rest of the human race?  We see them every day--with either a cell phone or earbuds--avoiding contact with those around them.  Will the nurse of tomorrow be able to demonstrate empathy?  Or will she be too self-absorbed to connect with a patient or family member during life's most important moments?  The Empathic Civilisation, by Jimmy Rifkin, explains how we are all connected.

The Empathic Civilisation, by Jimmy Rifkin

Jimmy Rifkin is a bestselling author, political advisor and social and ethical prophet.  In The Empathic Civilisation, he explains the evolution of empathy and the benefits of living in an empathic community.

Civility

I have found that I am becoming more tolerant of others' opinions as I get older.  While I have my own definite opinions, I have no problem letting other people express their different opinions as long as they're civil and also respect my beliefs.  However, I am learning that not everyone has the capability of being civil in a public forum. 

One of the best things about Facebook is the ability to reconnect with people from your childhood.  I was very happy to find a childhood friend after more than 40 years had passed.  We had a wonderful time reminiscing about the old neighborhood, the old school, and old friends.  However, whenever I posted anything with a political theme, She bombarded my page with lengthy diatribes against the people for whom I vote and support.  Several messages were rambling, angry, misspelled posts that should have been embarrassing to her.  She sent me speeches from members of Congress with the instructions to "watch with an open mind." 

I asked her to stop trying to convert me and refrain from stirring the political pot on my page.  I was accused several times of "drinking the kool-aid served by Rush Limbaugh." I find that reference offensive, knowing how many people died as the result of a madman.  I was accused of being mean-spirited, ignorant (of the facts as she sees them), and unable to make a decision without the help of (as she calls it) "Faux News."  She obviously has bad opinions of public education, too.  Her children are home-schooled.  By her.  Very frightening when you look at her grammar, spelling, and unwillingness to accept any opinion other than hers.

After a while, almost everything I posted on Facebook was subject to her rants about the evil Republicans and how they're destroying America.  I deleted most of them for two reasons. 

(1)   I have many well-educated, compassionate, very nice Republican friends on Facebook who would likely take offense to her nonsense.

(2)I have many well-educated, compassionate, very nice Democrat friends on Facebook who would likely be embarrassed by her nonsense.

 

While I disagree politically with about half of my friends on Facebook, I have never been attacked for my beliefs until now.  Most of my friends respect my opinions, as I do theirs.  It's the fringe lunatics on both sides of the spectrum who make it difficult for this country to come together and take care of the problems we are now facing.  I learned a long time ago to eliminate unneeded stress in my life wherever possible.  So, Laura, I have "unfriended" you.  I am sad that you could not respect my right to have an opinion other than yours.   I wish you much luck and hope you live a long, healthy life. 

Hockey Season is Over in Muskegon

Hockey season is officially over in Muskegon!  Once again, our house is back to normal and our dog is looking for her boys.

In 2003, we started hockey players for a junior team in Texarkana, TX.  Our first player was Patrick Galivan, who moved in with us as a shy 17-year-old senior in high school.  I'm still not sure how we ended up with two players, but shortly after Pat moved in, Steve LaFrenier joined us.  This started a long-term relationship we still maintain with several families in Chicago.  In fact, when Pat moved from junior hockey to Division 1 hockey, we continued to follow him at Western Michigan.   That first season in Texarkana was an eye-opener for us, as we were introduced to the world of junior hockey and some really fun hockey players and parents.  We learned about the heartbreak of trades and being scratched, injuries, and the highs of being on a winning team.  We quickly fell in love with the quality of play, as well as the quality of the young men involved in the team.

In 2004, Patrick returned to the team for a second season.  There was no way we would allow him to live with anyone else, so he moved back in.  The coach called us a couple weeks later to ask if a player from Detroit could move in with us, which was when we met Steve Bandurski.  Steve quickly became a heartthrob among the local hockey fans and was a great asset to the team.  Then the coach called again to ask if we could house another player for a short while "until we can find a permanent place for him."  I had an extra bed in the room where Steve was staying so John Kearns moved in.  John was delightful!  After he moved in, there was no way he was going to live anywhere else.  I think the coach knew how much we would like John.  He made his bed every morning!  Amazing!  Then there was Jason.  Jason Price spent several nights at our house because he and Steve had become good friends.  Jason came to me (with the other guys in the background) and asked if he could also move in.  The coach wasn't thrilled, but because Jason had been staying with us anyway, he permanently moved in.  I learned that Jason became the spokesman for the group.  What a year that was!!  We had so much fun.  Unfortunately, Bill was living in Michigan and missed most of it.  While I had decided this was my last year to billet players, Bill hadn't come to that conclusion.

Last year the Muskegon Lumberjacks became a junior team and Bill wanted very much to house a player.  Again, we ended up with multiple players.  The first two players to move in were Chris Lochner and Brent Bain.  Chris is from Atlanta, but was born in New York.  Brent is from Toledo.  Unfortunately, Brent didn't stay long but went on to have a great season with an NAHL team.  Then Ryan Misiak from Detroit moved in.  Chris's season was cut short by an injury, just as his season was taking off, but he ended up with a scholarship to Niagara University.  Ryan had a great season and will attend Mercyhurst College on a scholarship in the fall.

We have thoroughly enjoyed following all these young men as they move on the the next part of their lives.  Patrick Galivan went on to Western Michigan University and was the top scorer in the CCHA his senior year.  He signed with the Chicago Wolves and has played with the Wolves and the Gwinnett Gladiators.  Steve LaFrenier played for Robert Morris in Chicago until he graduated a couple years ago.  Steve Bandurski played for Robert Morris University and Kettering until he graduated.  John Kearns played for Army and the University of Wisconsin Eau Claire until he graduated this year and Jason Price has played for several teams and is currently playing with the Augusta Riverhawks.  We were fortunate to see him play with the Muskegon Lumberjacks pro team last year and were happy to attend the wedding of Jason to his beautiful wife, Michole.

We thank both teams for introducing us to these extended members of our family.  We also thank their families for sharing their boys with us.  I wish them much luck and hope they remain in touch with us.  It's been a great experience!